Why January Feels So Long (and Why That Might Be Normal)
It’s that time of year again. January.
A lighthearted meme about January feeling much longer than other months, capturing shared winter exhaustion.
Why feeling stuck, unmotivated, or flat in January might be normal
We’ve just come off the end of the year, which for most people involves an intense amount of work, pressure, social obligations, and the ongoing effort of holding everything together.
Then, almost immediately, we’re expected to return to routine and step into the whole new year, new you mindset.
I’ll be honest — I hate that vibe.
Why January often feels harder than we expect
Every January, I hear the same things from people: that they feel stuck, unmotivated, irritable, or emotionally flat. There’s even a running joke that January lasts about 82 days — and while it’s funny, it’s also pretty accurate.
These feelings are often treated like something that needs fixing. But there’s a good chance they’re actually normal.
If we look at this season the way nature does, nothing is trying to grow right now. There’s less light. It’s colder. Movement slows. Energy is conserved.
There’s no blooming. No urgency. No pushing forward.
And yet we expect ourselves to do exactly that.
This is why I push back so hard on the new year, new you narrative. It asks for expansion in a season that’s designed for contraction.
When slowing down doesn’t feel restful
For people who already feel overwhelmed or stuck in survival mode, being forced to slow down can feel terrible.
Less busyness means less distraction.
Less distraction means more internal noise.
Stillness doesn’t always feel safe — especially if your nervous system has learned to stay alert just to get through the day. So instead of relief, January can bring irritability, restlessness, or that heavy sense of being stuck.
The calm, peaceful stillness of winter isn’t always experienced as calm in the body.
Winter isn’t failure — it’s preparation
Feeling this way doesn’t mean you’ve regressed.
It doesn’t mean healing isn’t working.
It doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong.
Often, it means your nervous system is doing exactly what it’s meant to do in this season — hibernating.
On the farm, winter looks quiet. But underneath the snow, things are preparing. Roots deepen. Soil settles. Energy is stored.
By the time February arrives, there’s already movement happening below the surface.
Humans aren’t all that different.
This season doesn’t offer much space for real rest, so when it shows up, it’s worth taking — without guilt, without pressure, and without turning it into another thing to optimize.
The calm peaceful stillness of winter
What helps when January feels heavy or stuck
If January feels more overwhelming than restful, these approaches can support your nervous system gently:
Lower expectations, especially around productivity and motivation
Keep some structure, even while slowing down (routine can feel safer than complete stillness)
Normalize lower energy, rather than fighting it
Focus on maintenance, not growth
Allow rest to be imperfect, rather than something you have to “do right”
Seek co-regulation, whether that’s connection, therapy, or shared space
January isn’t asking for transformation. It’s asking for conservation.
If this resonates
If this season feels heavier than usual — or if the stuckness feels overwhelming rather than restorative — you don’t have to carry it alone.
Support can help your nervous system find steadier ground, at a pace that respects where you are.
When you’re ready, reaching out is enough.
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