Online Couples Therapy in Ontario
at Wandering Willow
Supporting couples who feel stuck, disconnected or caught in a pattern they don’t know how to change
Are relationships supposed to feel this hard?
You’re having the same conversations over and over
And nothing is actually changing.
One of you tries to talk things through.
The other shuts down or pulls away.
Things escalate quickly… or end just as fast, without really resolving anything.
You both care about the relationship.
But still feel disconnected, frustrated, or like you’re missing each other.
It starts to feel like it has to be someone’s fault.
But more often, it isn’t either of you.
It’s the pattern between you.
When we slow that pattern down, things begin to make more sense.
You can start to understand what’s actually happening underneath the arguments,
Why one of you feels alone or overwhelmed.
and why the other pulls back or shuts down.
From there, we can start to shift it.
So you’re not stuck having the same conversations…
but able to have ones that actually go somewhere different.
The important note is that you don’t have to keep trying to figure this out on your own. Book a free consultation to find out how I can help.
You might be noticing:
✔ The same arguments coming up again and again—without resolution
✔ Feeling emotionally distant, even when you’re in the same room
✔ Conversations that quickly escalate… or shut down completely
✔ Tension around trust, intimacy, or feeling misunderstood
✔ Stress from parenting, work, or life changes impacting your relationship
✔ Trying to repair things, but somehow ending up back in the same place
✔ Feeling like you’re walking on eggshells around each other
You don’t have to be in crisis for something to feel off.
Many couples reach out because they can tell something isn’t working, even if they can’t fully explain it yet.
What Couples Therapy Can Feel Like
Couples therapy doesn’t have to feel like choosing sides or figuring out who’s right
At its core, the work is about understanding what happens between you
especially in the moments where things start to go off track.
Your relationship cycle is the problem… not either partner
In most relationships, partners get caught in repeating patterns
especially during stress, conflict, or disconnection.
These patterns often develop as ways of trying to protect the relationship…
but over time, they can create more distance, frustration, or hurt.
In therapy, we slow those moments down.
We look at what’s happening underneath the reactions
what each of you is feeling, needing, and trying to communicate.
Not to assign blame,
but to help you understand each other more clearly.
Sessions may include:
✔ Noticing interaction patterns as they happen
✔ Understanding emotional and nervous system responses beneath reactions
✔ Learning how to interrupt unhelpful cycles and repair more effectively
✔ Creating new ways of responding that foster connection and understanding
How I approach this work
My work is grounded in well-researched approaches to relationships, including Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and the Gottman Method.
But more importantly, it’s about understanding you as a couple.
EFT helps us understand the emotional patterns underneath conflict.
The parts that don’t always get said out loud, but shape how you respond to each other.
The Gottman Method brings in practical tools for communication, repair, and rebuilding connection.
Rather than following one model rigidly, I integrate these approaches in a way that fits your relationship and what you’re going through.
Getting Started
Finding the right couples therapist is about fit. A consultation offers space to talk about what’s bringing you in, ask questions, and get a sense of how I work before deciding on next steps.
If you’re feeling unsure but curious, that’s often a good place to begin.